Parenting Plans and Your Family: What is Nesting?
At Rubin & Levavi, P. C., we always push for collaboration between separated parents when it comes to the kids. Parenting plans are a great way to implement schedules and other logistics solutions that work great for everyone, especially because they can be customized to your family’s specific needs.
For this post, we’re looking at “nesting,” a popular arrangement that has been rising in popularity. Basically, nesting is a living arrangement where the parents rotate in and out of a family home while the children stay put. This arrangement can offer a plethora of advantages, although there are downsides that you should consider before deciding if nesting is right for you and your loved ones.
What are the Advantages of Nesting
The main advantage to nesting is that, while children are normally carted between homes once parents are fully separated, this arrangement provides them with a stable space they can call home. This can be critical, especially because kids can be heavily affected by the stresses of divorce, as it prevents them from further feeling penalized or “punished” due to their parents’ separation.
Nesting can also be implemented on a temporary basis, making it an effective way for your children to transition into their new lives with minimal disruption. The psychological benefits of nesting can be significant, but only if the cons don’t outweigh the pros.
What are some Downsides to Consider?
For one, the financial requirements of a nesting arrangement can be a disqualifier. In California, keeping three separate households is prohibitively expensive, and this arrangement really only works for wealthy couples, or for those who have somewhere to stay for free (such as with family).
The other issue is the amount of collaboration and mutual respect this type of arrangement requires. If you and your ex can’t stand to be around one another, it’s going to be very difficult to share a living space, even if you’re there at separate times. Nesting is only an option if you have a good working relationship with the ex. Otherwise, you’re better off sticking to an arrangement that involves less interaction between you two.
We at Rubin & Levavi, P. C. hope that you found this article insightful. Remember, if you need to speak with a family law attorney about any related matter, or any issue involving divorce or child custody in CA, remember that we’re here to help.
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